Originally Posted by gleefan

Can I run them by the Febbies? I could:
- ignore what she said
It's bothering you so ignoring it is just going to make it fester.
- tell her that I don't like the meeting she wants me to do service at, that I just go to make her happy, and that id do service if it were at the meeting I preferred to be at that day
Is this how you really feel? Do you want to do service at a different meeting? I am getting the impression you don't really want to do service. (What exactly is service anyway? I don't attend AA so I don't know.)
- tell her I prefer a different meeting and leave out the service part
This sounds like what you're leaning towards once the studying is done. But I might be wrong.
- explain the overtime hours needed to study for the test outside of work, and tell her that my career hinges on it so it's nonnegotiable for me me to skip studying
Personally, this is what I would say and ask her how she can help support you through this.
- i agree sobriety is important but I don't think she realizes that I have an ongoing daily discussion about sobriety on SR. I don't want to give up my online anonymity to her, though. (Giving it up to someone in real life is different than developing an outside friendship with existing, active SR users).
You don't have to say SR. Just say you're involved with an online group. Also, is she willing to touch base with you on the phone until you have taken the test?