It got to the point that when my ex began talking about “relapse” it usually meant he already had.
The anger they have is at themselves but comes out at those around them. He wants to drink period. He wants to “manage” his drinking……………..not ready to totally give it up yet.
So, knowing that, where do you go from here? What were your initial boundaries regarding relapse? What plans did you have in place in the event his sobriety didn’t last?