Hes angry because he can't control my feelings.
That sounds like a fair analysis. It also sounds like he was preparing to take a relapse, and when your reaction to it was not what he wanted, he's back in a pre-recovery mindset ("she's making me stay sober and I don't wanna").
I know recovery for an addict is difficult, but I also get a lot of warning flags when an addict starts taking someone else's inventory and talking about how "normal" relapses are. Those things sound like excuses to drink to me, and not the behavior of somebody who is fully committed to their recovery.
I never went through the recovery period with my ex; I left before he tried getting sober (he failed). But my RA friends, the ones that have successfully worked on recovery and stayed sober for years, are people who have taken full responsibility for their drinking and not tried to pawn it off on somebody else.