When one person is an addict, the other cannot be their support system. That is why they have a sponsor and people in their lives that can support them. You are much too close to the situation to do such a thing, and why should you? You need your own support system!
He wants you to go to counseling w/him so he can manipulate and convince you it's ok to drink "some." We all know how that is going to turn out, hence your old post.
Please stay the course and listen to your children.
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