WOW REFINER........ Thank you for that. I needed to see that. didn't rrealize at first that it was my own post!!!!
No I do not want to go back to that ever again. I like my cozy little apartment and kids and I being in a peaceful atmosphere. I need to stop feeling guilty when he pushes my buttons and lays it on so thick that I start feeling sorry for him. I have asked him to get help first and then possibly marriage counseling. He wants the dr to tell him that he should go for help, that we should do this together and work on both of our problems TOGETHER AT THE SAME TIME. I have told him no.