myfreedom....YOU know that he can't. But, you will never convince him, with logic, that he can't.
A fact that he can't appreciated is that his definition of you all being "happy" again does not take in the fact that his alcoholism will continue to cause destruction, He is in denial because he is an alcoholic.
This is not a debate.....where someone "wins" just because they have better debating skills.
My fear for you is that if you seek agreement, at all costs, that you will pay for it with the suffering of y our children and yourself.
This is not a compromising situtation, either! People compromise when they are on the same team. The two of you are not on the same side when it comes to this issue. It comes down to one or the others.
Look at it this way....one of you is going to be disappointed.....WHO IS IT GOING TO BE?
A good codie will always let the other person "win" at the cost of their own demise.
(there are three to be disappointed....really (you and your 2? children).
dandylion
I can't help but think of your forum name, right now! my freedom....LOL!