Here's another thing to consider; do you have conversations during the day, not in bars, every day all your life? Do you have friends, go to work, get coffee, talk to people in your life? Do you laugh and enjoy yourself - looking honestly back on your life - many hours of every week when you're NOT drinking?
This is one thing I realize. Even when I wasn't in recovery, many hours of every day are spent without alcohol. I have lots of 'evidence' in my life of fun times I've had and great time spent with others that didn't happen in bars or while consuming poison.
I think it's a great tool in recovery to look back, journal, reflect on the many joyful parts of our lives and the social parts of our lives that didn't involve being drunk.
The topic of 'partying' came up at a recent meeting and one woman said 'five year olds PARTY. They wear silly hats and they run around and play tag. They don't get drunk, they just celebrate JOY'