George89

Hi Dee,

Thanks for the encouraging words. It's a good point, there are a lot of sober people out there that can do it and obviously have a good life. You are right and it's funny how when you take out drinking you release these things about yourself.

I'm sure I would become even more confident after a while and know that I would not need to drink to be a cool, interesting person but at first it feels like that crutch is missing, and learning how to socialise without alcohol does feel strange. I guess in reality, the difference in their eyes between a sober and drunk person is minimal and probably it would be more interesting to speak to a sober person anyway. So I guess it's always good to think about it as I was someone else, talking to me, I would rather speak to sober me then drunk me.

I do have some friends that don't drink and some that haven't in the past, so it's not impossible at all. I think also, I get more worried about finding a girlfriend again now I'm 25, the pressure builds up slowly that it's something we are meant to have, and I find stopping drinking may delay that process even more. Again that's probably a self limiting belief I have. And the truth is, I am scared of the idea of intimacy without alcohol. How could I have the confidence to start dating a girl,getting intimate with her, making the first kiss without alcohol ? Again I am sure its possible but it feels like uncharted territory for me..!