Originally Posted by
soberwolf 
You say your more productive without Alcohol
your only argument is your social life ?
you obsess over this thinking ?
You can have a social life without alcohol the only ppl who think like this are the addicted
your not alone i thought id be a monk/hermit in sobriety
how wrong i was i have a better fantastic life
sobriety is like a upgrade of self you get 'you' back youl have an even better social life
well done on finding us
Hi soberwolf, thanks for your reply. I am sure it is possible to have a good social life without drinking, but do you still find yourself going out as much in the evenings ? I realised also that I use alcohol to mask my fatigue ! Without alcohol, I feel tired and would prefer to stay in at night on a Friday for example and have a good nights sleep.
I suppose a zen way would be to see some friends for even 1-2hours on Friday night, not drink and then go home still at a reasonable hour. That way if I could still socialise and not drink then it would all be easier. I suppose being honest that I sort of made that excuse up as a justification to drink. So maybe next time I decide to go sober I will aim to socialise at least once or twice on the weekends so I don't lost touch with my friends and feel like I am missing out on anything..
It's just tough, I think as right now, I will say ok I won't drink this month and maybe more, but I suppose there is a large difference between that and actually planning to live a sober life. I am not sure if I am ready to commit to that yet, but I think unless you commit to it, then stopping drinking will only be for a period of time..it's like I think I need to make a proper commitment to a sober lifestyle to really do it, otherwise it will be the odd month off here and there but always coming back to drinking..