he wants a harassment order because then he will release the full wrath of what he has on me and my family
That's going to be tough to do from a jail cell, which is where he will be if you have a protection order that he attempts to violate. One single text message post-order will be considered a violation, the police will pick him up and transport him to your county jail.
You have plenty - more than enough - to obtain a temporary order. I know this because I recently went through the process, and I didn't have as much as you. Just some voicemails that scared the hell out of me. You go to court, you get a temporary order issued - all you do is walk in and find the window for protection from abuse orders - and then you show up about 2 weeks later to ask the judge to make it a more permanent order. This was also a simple process.
My XAH also was obsessed with my family, particularly my parents. He was/is hugely insecure.