Originally Posted by
PaperDolls 
I think I may be sort of annoyed that at some (most) Alanon or ACOA meetings I can't or shouldn't mention that I'm also an alcoholic.
Is this sentiment expressed or implied? If expressed, that is a real shame. Everyone's there for the same purpose, it seems counter-productive to shut down part of someone's experience.
With the exception of being a double-winner, I could have written your post. My mother has been sober for ages, but I still don't have a mom. I was in therapy for a long time to work through what I was denied growing up. It still comes up in various ways, but in general, I have been a lot more peaceful and content since I let go of her altogether. Not an easy decision (nor a popular one), but I just couldn't invest anymore of my life in the hope that she would change.
I hope you feel free to vent here as often as you like, I love your posts and all you offer the site!