Hi Mavis,
Alcoholism varies from person to person so it's not surprising your H is denying you have a problem. It has taken nearly two years for me to persuade my wife I do have a problem. We don't do all our drinking in the presence of others and become adept at hiding it.
What kicked off your self destructive mood? Are you still house bound because of your ankle?
Can you declare your home is an alcohol free zone, if it's not there you can't drink it
Take care of you and don't beat yourself up.