I did tell him I am attending Al-anon.
What was your purpose in telling him you are attending al-anon? What outcome were you expecting?
You fell hard and fast in these short 8 months for someone who not only has told you but shown you who he is – an alcoholic who doesn’t want to change.
So in this dating phase it was discovered a future relationship is not possible with this man and YOU are having a difficult time accepting that.
You could change your hair color, lose weight, get a new job, take up a second language, do cart wheels down the street………….nothing YOU will do or say is ever going to CHANGE HIM and give YOU the kind of relationship you want and deserve. And until YOU come to ACCEPT that and keep hanging on you’ll be dragged and experience further hurt and disappointment and from this point forward you can’t blame him or his drinking because it’s NOW YOUR ISSUES that need to be addressed.