Heartbreak, we are about supporting the friends and family of the alcoholic here. The alcoholic can find support in his own program. This individual has known her qualifier for only 2 months. She is recognizing red flags. It is not her job to make him whole. She has 2 children to take care of. To advance the alcoholic's interests over her own strikes me as downright cruel. I can only wish that I had recognized the red flags before having my own life turned upside down.....