Thanks for your post, Heartcore.
I have to say candidly, that if you were a good partner before you got into recovery, you are one in a million. Everyone I have ever known who has been with an active addict experiences profound and lasting pain.
I also question the idea of "fate" deciding who we marry. I believe we choose our partners, either consciously or otherwise. Personally, I can see my own choosing an alcoholic ties directly to my upbringing in an addictive household.
I am happy for you that you have found sobriety, and wish you every success!