I feel none of us are born with the answers for a reason.
In the beginning we will voice our displeasure. As we grow and learn more though Al Anon or Nar Anon... they start to see changes and they do know our displeasure because we may have voiced it many many times in the past.
Once they see the changes and don't hear the words, it does start thinking to happen.
Have seen this from both sides of the fence and I know that...
It will be easier for me to make my decision if I just sit back and see what happens
is a good idea.