I honestly can not remember my frame of mind when I joined SR and have not gone back to read my original posts because I simply am not ready too. But I do know that I blamed my husband for all our problems. I was naive and ignorant about addiction and codependency. I suffered from being terminally unique. I was angry, sad, confused, hurt and felt so all alone.
Although, I would never wish addiction on any anyone or any family, I was honesty relieved to know I wasn't the only one whose life had become so unmanageable because of addiction. The sad stories broke my heart, but the ones that made it to the "other side" gave me hope for ME!
That said, I too truly wish we could do a survey for why people have left as we have lost so many wonderful and healthy posters with amazing ESH. Dollydo, Kindeyes, EnglishGarden, cynical one, hello kitty, outtolunch.....to name a few. It was these posters who helped me (and others I know) - so much when I was in deep denial. Some where gentle while others said what I so didn't want to hear. And I can not thank them all enough.
Sadly, these posters have left for similar reasons. The disrespect and mocking by a few (aka junior high mean girls clique) was enough for them. I admire their boundaries and desire for serenity and their integrity to be true to themselves. But it was truly a great loss to so many of us.
Lastly, I am truly thankful for the 12 steppers who have stuck around to share with us. Some days I think, I can not wait until I no longer need or want SR. I have often thought had my husband maintained his recovery, I would have been long gone. But I know I still have much work to do, so I stay....just not as much.
