Oh, but let me tell you the connection -- my ex informed me after he went healthnutcrazy post-rehab: It's because he's doing all these healthy things that it's OK for him to drink and smoke. It evens out, see. That's the explanation I got.
I feel a little bit bad making fun of the alcoholic reasoning, but I also have to say that my codependent reasoning wasn't much brighter. Once when I saw his credit card bill and saw what he had spent at the liquor store in a month, I went and spent the same amount on random online shopping. Because that made perfect sense. Let's BOTH be financially irresponsible, that'll solve everything. *rolling my eyes*