I went on a date last weekend...first one since leaving xabf. It was weird, having the company of someone else.
I didn't tell many people about it, since it's only been about 2 months since I left xabf. But I was ready to leave well before that so deep down I don't feel like its an issue. I do want to focus on DD and getting our life together before any thing else. But it was nice to get out and have a sober conversation with someone.
We hit it off as well, we both has children (his son is 2, my dd is 3), he grew up with an alcoholic mom, and we both work in construction. Conversation flowed easily, there wasn't sparks or fireworks but we were comfortable around each other.
I think the biggest thing to dating after leaving the relationship with an A is that we can't remember to loose focus on ourselves. Those boundaries are important and we have to remember that if the next person can't respect our boundaries then we aren't obligated to see them again.