Originally Posted by
RumHound 
Why they did not do so strikes me as a major ethical, if not moral, lapse. Generally speaking our society looks favorably on fulfilling a person's dying wishes which can reasonably be complied with.
I don't know ... if I was gravely ill and losing brain function, I would hope others would step in to make the best choices for me. I can say right now, that I would not want a drink on my deathbed. And if there was a malfunction to my brain and cognition, or if I was in so much pain that I could not think clearly, I would want others to make their decisions based on that and not what I said. But that is just me.