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Old 10-14-2014, 08:37 AM
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Can you (I am asking out of selfishness to know how to do this with my insane xAH too) explain what you sent by way of a calendar to him? You said he could see appts on line months in advance... Did you use a calendar you added info to?

My horrid xAH expects me to be his social secretary too and the court has sympathy for his poor me BS despite my endlessly providing him dates of things for our kids.

Originally Posted by Thumper View Post

Sort of an unrelated tip - I created one large email that had every bit of information he would ever need related to the kids. (Was part of our court order that I share info). All contact info he'd ever need. School info. Babysitters, coaches, Doctors, dentists, orthodontists. I created a separate photobucket account and uploaded pictures in there from time to time (this was a big 'thing' he'd harp on) and this email included web address and passwords, School calendar links, we have a campus portal to check grades, name and contact info for the local newspaper, you can access medical info on line for the specialists my kids see so he has the password to that, and any other bit of info he would harp on. It was a huge thing he'd get crazy over - these tiny details about every school event or community activity. We have four kids. To provide a blow by blow of every tiny activity etc. would be a full time job and never make him happy anyway. He can call the school and ask about a grade just as easy as I can, he can look at the calendar himself, and with the email he has no excuse to say I'm not giving him info. He wants to go to an IEP - call the school. You want to go to an appointment - show up - the appointments are listed on line 3 months in advance. Call the doctor - you are a parent - they will talk to you. I'm not your personal secretary. Anytime he had a complaint or bitched about me not sharing - I'd simply resend that email without a word. I bet I sent it a hundred times but it only took 3 seconds it was so slick and easy to do and I was holding up my end 100%. FWIW it was not about the kids and him knowing what they were doing - it was about playing games with me. I doubt he's ever utilized one word, one link, one contact on that list.
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