D1978...you are grieving....which, of course is a normal reaction. It will have to run it's course. Your instincts have been correct to begin your own therapy and stay busy with friends. Structure does help a lot.
You will still feel the loss for a while...but it won't always be as white-hot at it is, right now.
I have a suggestion: There is a video on the internet (suggested by one of our members, named "Hammer", who introduced it to us. Do watch it. go to Lockerz.com and look for "Madea"---"People are like leaves, branches, and roots".
Also, it is helpful to make a list of the very worst times of the relationship (for you) and keep the piece of paper with you. When you find yourself longing for him....read the list!
Do it as often as necessary. That kept me afloat after on reallly painful break-up.
dandylion