Having two alcoholics in a relationship is really hard.
do you think he's taken this opportunity as his free go nuts card in response to your drinking?
That might be so, (we alkies are opportunists after all) but honestly NCG if it wasn't you drinking it could easily be something else.
I don't believe you're responsible
As for rules? It's really hard to lay down the law when you've been transgressing boundaries yourself.
But if you don't, then it's open slather....and I know you don't want that.
It's your place right? you get to make the rules.
But I do think you'll need to be prepared to stick to them yourself, if only for your own peace of mind.
(Just read Crois' post:I'm assuming you no longer want to split up?)
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