ESD .... Don't be too quick to pull the homeschool option, there's a big lesson to teach your daughter there. Sometimes it's easier to walk straight through the pain and fears then to figure out quickest way around. As far as your 5 year old ideation, have you talked to your pediatrician? I agree action must be taken. A 5 year olds world is very black and white. I'm sure your children are scared, with your current health crisis. They have knowledge and experiences they aren't mentally mature enough to comprehend and reason. You are in my thoughts!!