Thanks guys. I don't want to control him. I want a home free of drugs and alcohol. I want a healthy environment for me and for our little girl. I'm hoping that his not wanting her to find out what he is really doing will still be important enough to him that he will listen to his friend if not me.
He does acknowledge that he needs help. He just hasn't wanted to make that jump. At least that's what he's presented to me. Either way, at this point, this isn't the sweetheart I married. This guy is someone I would NEVER associate with if I just met him today.