Originally Posted by
yinzer 
Flyn, were you a difficult drunk? Did you fight when you were drunk? Maybe she checked out during those years and communicated with you in that flat line way to keep situations from escalating? Maybe she is not sure quite how to communicate with you now?
At least she's making you chicken.
All drunks are difficult drunks. My father was a wonderful drunk. My father didn't fight with my mother when he was drunk, but he didn't listen to her either, he dismissed her, she was "less than" he was, he was self-engrossed and rude to her I'm sure every day of the week -- she always had to be the hard one, the bad one, the meanie. We thought she was cold. Maybe living with him made her into that role.
Drunks are never fun to live with. Nor, I think, are people in early sobriety. We're egotistical emotional basketcases. I don't envy the spouse.
