I'd give it some time....41 days sober is very early to put your life into total upheaval....it sounds like you get on well so there is no abuse or anything that needs to be escaped at this moment. From an outsider looking in I'd say concentrate on early recovery (you never know this could be affecting the way you view things at the moment), when you feel stronger in yourself then maybe start to make the life changing decisions if you still feel they need to be made.
Me and my wife have been know to loose our connection some times just from becoming stale...maybe try to get out and do some new things to find out if sober you and your partner can now reconnect or connect on a different level now that your need for a carer has gone.
I hope it works out for you either way.