LOVED wine. But it is not on my radar anymore. I quit drinking and rewired my brain. The obsession was lifted and I don't need to be hypervigiliant. That would be exhausting. I will ask about a recipe if I'm not sure, but what person with an allergy wouldn't?
What are you doing to change so that your perception that "wine is everywhere" ceases? When we are disturbed, the problem is us.
It is not the booze. Because you know, bread is everywhere too. Bread bread bread.....THAT'S what I think when I go to a nice restaurant.