Old 10-03-2014, 01:03 PM
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Sobertoday2014
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How do you stay sober when your spouse still drinks?

I know I'm an alcoholic. I've completely accepted that fact. However, my spouse is not (not as bad as me anyway), and still drinks a couple nights a week. He doesn't drink in front of me (not yet anyway, I'm only 7 days in) but he comes home late from work smelling like a brewery and brings up so many triggers/emotions I can't stand to be around him.

I'm pissed I can't drink, pissed he can, and irate that he expects me to stay sober when put in this position.

I've told him how this makes me feel and he says I need to deal with it because I'M the alcoholic and not him. I've recommended he go to either
an AA or Alanon mtg to get a better perspective of the disease, but he's not interested. Anyone else faced with a similar dilemma?
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