I understand, I guess it just still rings of trying to control his consequences to me.... and that doing it to make you happy & live by your rules won't necessarily translate to him learning to care for himself once that dynamic/obstacle is no longer there.
I guess it's confusing me because it's clearly an ultimatum & not a boundary? (which is something I've been thinking about a lot this week, so it may just be sticking out to me for that reason alone.....)
Food for thought this morning, thanks!