I just feel some guilt because of acts of omission on my part.....meaning unlike most of you, I withheld BLUNTLY telling him OVER and OVER again how worried I was about his health!!!. and not because I didn't care but because maybe I knew it would have been received with anger and rejection. It kind of leaves me feeling like I didn't say enough to him, to make him feel like someone cares about what the disease will do to him in the end. The last thing I want to feel and the last thing I want my ex A to feel checking out of this relationship is that I didn't care and I wouldn't be there for him when he finally makes that decision for sobriety!