Originally Posted by
desypete 
i didnt have a partner when i got sober so sex was not a problem in that way, the only problem i had was finding someone to have sex with lol
but to be honest i remember my first lady i had the pleasure of being able to entertain and it didnt go down to well
i ended up feeling totally embarrassed by it all but then i was well into my 40s and it was my first time since my ex wife and we had been together for 24 years so it was strange indeed
as we get older problems do come our way when it comes to preforming in that department that we dare not mention : ) so i will not mention it
go and see a dr if you have concerns as there are things that can be taken like Viagra for example
but see a dr and see what he or she thinks, on second thoughts better make it a male dr lol or i know i would : )
good luck to you and i hope things come up trumps if you pardon the pun
I'm going to try not to sound defensive or self-conscious here, but my concern isnt actually about performance during sex, it's about the idea of actually desiring it. In fact, the actual itself has been better in many ways since I've been sober, I just seem to be WAY less interested.
Or perhaps I should say when I was drinking I ALWAYS wanted to have sex.
It's just a change in me that I could tell was probably concerning my gf more than me. We'll definitely talk today though.