Sorry chicckie, but good for you on sticking to your expectations! He's not gonna use you as a doormat.
He needs therapy to grow into a functioning adult man.
Your own life and expectation is very important, i hope you go back too. Especially if there is no group you can join....she may know of some.
Please don't be so depressed, i know you have given up a lot.
Remind him to pay for his own cellphone too.