HWG, congratulations on 13 years.
I never drank more than three drinks in public; I usually stopped at two. I carefully paced myself. I usually left for home early so I could start my heavy drinking. Sometimes I had a few drinks before going to a social situation, then still managed to drink only one or two.
Because of that, I now wonder if someone is truly one who can "take it or leave it," or is like me, and just putting on a show.