We have three small children and I'm so worried about what moving out again will do to them.
If you go to our homepage, you will find a sticky note that Ann posted on abuse.
My view is there is nothing that your AH is doing that's considered acceptable behavior. You may be his wife, LL, but he has no right to treat you poorly. No right whatsoever.
If you have somewhere you can go, I would encourage you to take your children and get out.
We have members that have been through similar ordeals. My hope is that they pipe up soon. Pay attention to what they share with you, LL. And again, check out Ann's sticky note.
Please keep us posted. We're here for you.