Butterfly,
Doesn't self realization just run you over sometimes? You sound quite empowered...more power to you!
I am lucky, my ex A has been around the block enough with relationships and drinking that he just pretty much walked when I hit my limit. It felt like such rejection that he didn't come pleading back. (Oh, I KNOW how Codi that sounds!) But when the work I have been putting into myself started to pay out, I felt very much like you are feeling now. I still hit bumps in the road, but hey, growing pains sometimes hurt!
Stay strong sister! HUGS.