Yeah its that pseudo-loving "nudge me out" language that sets me off. Where is the remorse. I think I'm getting triggered by letting my focus slip off me and into the role the author proposes I'm in. I don't actually have to accept his proposition. Having learned a bit in alanon at this point, in the face of active & unrestrained addiction like our esteemed author is talking about I don't think my response would be quite as pleasant as he's hoping for.