Update.
we just had a huge sit down talk, I asked her to look at a web page & see if she could see herself in there.
Lots of "grey area" responses at first. I can't say much about that, God knows I looked for "grey areas" for years before finally admitting I drank alcoholicly.
But a wee breakthrough came when she admitted she brought anger & control issues with her into our relationship just like I brought my alcoholism. Neither of us "caused" those traits, but at the same time, we have exacerbated each others traits.
So ... plan is, I remove the "Boulder" in my life, alcoholism, She will remove the "Boulder" in hers.
After that, we can pick up the rocks, stones & pebbles.
Progress not perfection. First things First.
I have renewed hope.
I know I am already taking action on my problem & will continue to follow through.
I feel my wife has taken the first step today in admitting she can see her problem.
Thanks for everyones help on this. You all rock
