Bear I've struggled with that question for two years now, and for me the answer always comes up "no." And I've tried to force the answer to be "yes," believe me. And it's just exhausting. So, so much easier to just let the answer be "no" (and yet so difficult
) Anyway, can't speak for you, but I agree with kristen from painful experience that there IS a line, it's very hard to see, and once you cross it, the game changes. Change the game first if you can my friend.