Originally Posted by
Hawks 
I feel like I am doing what I can do for myself, by addressing my alcoholism.
If she won't seek help for her problem, how long do I hang in there ?
The pain of the constant verballing, my inability to live up to her ever increasing demands are particularly painful now that I am sober again.
I really am struggling with what to do .
Abuse of any kind is never acceptable.
And, I fear for the safety and sanity of your children.
My advice is to stay sober, and separate yourself from your wife. The children need to be cared for by a sober parent and they need to be removed from the abusive parent.