Thanks Nuudawn & SW
I think my drinking clouded things too. In being Sober, I can see what a mess our family life is.
At least booze gave me a way of coping with the emotions brought about by her constant anger towards me, the nit picking, the "I'm always right" attitude.
She has even lorded it over me with things like "you're just an alcoholic, what the F##K would you know"
We seem to bring out the worst in each other.
I don't know how to address this.
She simply will not own up to any of her own behaviour for any length of time.
She is capable of acknowledging it and doing OK for a few days, even a week occasionally, but then we get back to square one.
I feel like I am doing what I can do for myself, by addressing my alcoholism.
If she won't seek help for her problem, how long do I hang in there ?
The pain of the constant verballing, my inability to live up to her ever increasing demands are particularly painful now that I am sober again.
I really am struggling with what to do .