Please stick this at the top in whatever fashion you do. This is something I need to read on a daily basis for awhile.
Several things you both touched on come to mind. One is that when my A was honest with me, I placed a judgement on it. I would either take it and judge it as the truth because it is what I needed at the time to believe, or lying and judged and reacted to that. One of the powerful things Al-Anon has taught me is that honesty and the actions/process/behaviors that emerge on anyone's journey towards it is THEIR own. I strive to not judge, and justify others' responses/beliefs. It is so hard to simply receive their honesty because it is was THEY need to do for THEMSELVES. I don't need to get involved in judging and reacting. Wow this is great.
Thanks for the thought provoking early morning coffee sipper stimulant for the new year!!!