A manner of living which demands rigorous honesty isn't the easy part of easy does it, so often mentioned in our fellowship!
Love and tolerance is the mantra, but having someone in your space that is a " crab in barrel of crabs" always snap, snap, snapping their claws ( mouths ) is a tough one. This is HER problem however, and not yours.
Perhaps, in a brief conversation - simply state - At this point in my sobriety, I am still progressing in achieving serenity. I love you, but simply cannot listen to issues that make me restless, irritable and discontented. ( pg xxvIII). Perhaps in the future.......
Or, tell her to bugger off!
peace to you....