Originally Posted by
Mountainmanbob 
Once when I sobered up a girlfriend that I had at the time, I think wished that I would start drinking again. Why ? Because I think that she thought that she had more control over me in a drunken or buzzed condition.
MM
Makes sense.
And it also makes sense that people get used to us being a certain way, for a long time period, and then suddenly things shift. We respond differently and this is unsettling for them perhaps. Because it prompts them to respond differently to us, in turn.