Hi, my son too has stolen from us and is presently is in jail for another charge. Like you I struggle understanding the addicts thought process. We had to put a stay away on our son...but on the good days I know I am doing the right thing by holding him accountable. Breaks my heart but I remind myself, I didn't give him drugs he chose that, I cannot cure his drive for them , only he can. The only thing we have any control over is our own selves and how we allow them to treat us. Treat yourselves well and maintain your home as your sanctuary as you feel fit. What ever your decision know that I am sending prayers to all of you.