Originally Posted by
ghostdad 
Find time to focus on yourself and staying sober. Find that strong willed independent person who you really are and don't let anyone tell you what to do. You are your own person. The relationship with your GF seems toxic. You have to ask yourself if its worth putting your time, energy and effort into your relationship especially when she's not reciprocating.
I wouldn't necessarily say 'toxic', but it has certainly got problems. We get along great most of the time but there are a few obvious and important differences that aren't going away.