This, this, this. I agree you are in very different places. For myself, the relief of not being tied up into my XAH's issues is a huge relief. I finally realized I had to put MY wellbeing in front of his.
Only you can decide what is right. It's good you are in therapy, I would address this w/your therapist.
Originally Posted by
atalose 
Once trust is gone in any relationship it's very hard to get it back. Right now his soul focus needs to be on his recovery while your focus is on the relationship. Your both in different places right.
If he drinks it will be by his own choice, not anything you do or say.