Sorry Anita I misunderstood or read wrong.
Guilt can be in the way of us making decisions, in our own interest for others, as we wish to do no further harm or abandon the sick. However, he is sick in a different way. A way in which he holds the key to his illness. In fact, helping him to much or standing in the way is what impedes his health.
It's such a heartbreak especially when the anger is turned on you. Please protect yourself.