This is such a wonderful account of you branching out and finding a new path. This is really important as those of us who over-dedicated our existence to save another need to find hobbies to keep us self-occupied.
I am so glad to imagine you salsa dancing and making plans to move! You sound very strong to deal with your qualifier in a compartmentalized way. It sounds like Facebook news is your only ***** in your armor. I tend to get a bit green with envy on occasion with that newsfeed of everyone living an amazing life with trips to Paris and kids so brilliant they will cure cancer at a middle school science fair. Maybe you need to curb your access to his feed? Maybe you need to let go further soon?
I think it might happen naturally even. One day it just want bother you that you don't know.
Thank you so much for updating us! You were active when I first joined SR and it means a lot to see how one makes a new, different, good life!