Originally Posted by
Kurapika 
People here tell tales of truly horrific abuse and I know my story doesn't compare
Bad relationships aren't a spectrum disorder. They're a judgement call.
When I read your post I hurt for you. I believe the cruel way your boyfriend treats you
is horrific. Whether or not it's more or less than someone else is neither here nor there. You are worth more.
Are you in any sort of therapy? Alanon? ACOA groups?
Good for you for not seeing him in a while. BoxinRotz is probably right, though. No contact may be even better, and WendyOr's words are excellent. Hopeworks also has a few sayings that would make good tattoos: "Red flags are not Party Favors." That's fantastic!